Many of us are born with the trait of struggling with receiving feedback, even though when it was entirely accurate. These individuals’ mind begins to race and their heartbeat quickens once they hear the words. If you also experience same thing when hearing feedback from your boss, colleagues, customers or anyone, you are not alone.
Unfortunately, being unable to accept feedbacks correctly can bring negative effects. In the heat of the moment, many of us react with defensiveness and anger. In worse cases, some people attacks the person giving the feedback. But the truth is, we need to get over it. Instead, we should consider all those feedbacks as constructive criticism. We can use those things as tool to identify our weaknesses and help maintain relationships and be successful with everything we do.
When hearing feedback or criticism, the very first thing you should do is to stop. Try not to react at all. While one second seems insignificant in real life, it’s ample time for your brain to process a situation. And in that moment, you can halt a dismissive facial expression or reactive quip and remind yourself to keep calm.
Secondly, you should not forget the fact that there are benefits to getting feedback from other people and the biggest benefit is self improvement. To improve your skills, work product, and relationships, and to help you meet the expectations that your manager and others have of you, you need to learn from those feedbacks.
Perhaps, the most difficult part is to look the person in the eyes and thank him or her for sharing feedback with you. Let that person know that you appreciate the time he spent about giving you feedback. Expressing appreciation doesn’t have to mean you’re agreeing with the assessment, but it does show that you’re acknowledging the effort of that person.
Learning to accepting feedback is so helpful in life and especially in career and business. According to an article by WA Today, this skill is also a sign of confidence. Read the full article here: https://www.watoday.com.au/business/workplace/truly-confident-people-must-be-open-to-feedback-from-others-20190219-p50yvc.html